THE GOODBYE CARD

It’s funny when you’re dating; no one ever prepares you for the breakup. You always think something really major will happen to cause it when you think of it, maybe catch him with the other person, or find some love texts on there phone from the secret lover or maybe finding out he’s a drug baron or even a fugitive, I don’t know, something really enormous, becauce when you’re in love the only viable reason for you breaking ranks with your sweetie can only be death.. Surprisingly enough it doesn’t  always happen that way………you know that by now,infact the usual daily arguments you have with your sweetie will probably cause the big breakup, yes the big breakup for lets be honest when your in a real relationship people usually breakup at least ten times before they really do breakup, it’s called being in a relationship.yah we have all been there, very mad in a heated argument with our sweethearts and one decides to test  how much they are loved and drops the “I think we should give this relationship a rest”, or simply “LETS BREAKUP!” just to push the others button, knowing well enough that the other party cannot handle that and will come running back to you sorry for whatever it is they had done, or just sorry for whatever you claim they have done wrong even though they can swear they were right  just as long as you come back to them.Men,haven’t we said sorry for things we haven’t done, made midnight calls, gone on drinking sprees to reduce the love stress and said yes to a lot of crimes we haven’t committed, it’s called falling in love

Just like everything else after too much use it gets old, that line too my friend will seize to be as effective with time and will be used less oftenly and more wisely because the next time you drop that breakup line could be your very last. Yes they could have finally decided that its time you do breakup. It hurts when your normal arguments end up being the breaking factor, my friend Sarah is living proof of daily arguments gone bad.

Sarah and Steve had been in a longtime relationship lasting since I knew them, theirs was a normal relationship, on and off, he lived in the city, she was working miles away in the interior, consequently  the phone was their best friend and worst enemy, because through it they would say all the sweet nothings to each other and through it they would have their constant heated arguments, it was through the same phone that they would check each others inboxes  and sent items for any unwanted messages, argue about why the other had not picked the phone, had switched it off ,had cut off the call ,this and that you know the normal relationship drama. It had been one month of not seeing each other ,but that month was different they hardly ever argued, the relationship was at its most peaceful ,no arguments, called daily, texted three times in a day, things were finally actually working out. So when Sarah finished the final arrangements for her four months leave she took the first bus back to the city to see him, despite the fact that she had a four months holiday in front of her to spend with him, she felt that she couldn’t last another day without seeing him.

Sure enough he was at the bus stop when she arrived, ready to pick her and spend the weekend with her. So back to his place as fast as possible to find that he had gone through the trouble of cooking her her favorite breakfast snack; bacon with boiled eggs, yummy. Soon after showering then taking breakfast and just as her boyfriend was trying to get cousy with her, Sarah started dozing off,”Jetlag”, she told Steve before slipping into a deep sleep. She was getting some good rest before Steve woke her up telling her how much he had missed her and instead of spending some much needed time with him she was sleeping. Thus Sarah albeit tired heeded to the call of her man, sacrifice,that’s what it is the name given to it in the relationship arena, but as they were making out ,Sarah’s attention was caught by the all time Tom cruise  on the cover of a  DVD lying on top of the table, it was his latest movie and she hadn’t watched it.” Honey let’s watch this movie as I rest then cuddle later”, Steve crept into a sickening silence and by the time the movie was over he looked like he could burst with anger.

”Honey you look mad, are you mad at me?”Asked Sarah in an effort to comfort her man.

 But efforts to find out what had caused his eyes to swell with so much anger failed and frankly she was getting fed up with his behavior, how could he be acting up the first time they had met in over a month? When he did speak up Steve went on and on about how he was feeling neglected by her, how she never attended to his needs when he really needed her to. Basically their most recurrent argument since time in memorial and Sarah wasn’t ready to go through it the umpteenth time.

”So what do you want?”Asked Sarah after Steve was done wimping,

”I think we should breakup”, came the reply.

“Fine just escort me back home and forget you ever knew me”, bursted Sarah.

And he did, at the bus stop they exchanged the usual “you have my this and that conversation” the conversation was degenerating into another argument and so Sarah jumped into the next bus home with the last word….”keep it ,I don’t need any memory from you anyway. “A remark she felt would do the trick of making Steve angry, angry enough to make the first call at least, that being said they parted ways.

The first week without Steve calling took Sarah by surprise but she was not going to give into the urging need to call him not then not ever, the second week  was a shock but a proof of the heights Steve was willing to take this mind game, heights Sarah was ready to venture into, the third week and she new something was terribly wrong, the forth Sarah new it was over, Steve was not going to call and sadly so was she, it’s been two years now, two years since they ever saw each other or spoke to the each other, since there breakup, just like that Sarah and Steve finally did breakup. And I still don’t believe they are not together had already pictured how their kids would look like in my head never told her that of course.

Its funny how you think you cant live without someone,yet you have lived most of your life without them, but you’ll be just fine. That’s what Sarah tells everyone going through a breakup, you’ll be just fine.