Alexis and Ben bumped into Bill and Kate on their way to a late night movie date. Bill and Kate were heading for their usual crazy night out. The couples exchanged a few pleasantries and what do you know? The meeting marked the end of Bill and Kate’s relationship. Well what really happened was; Kate finally got tired of the same old cup of tea that Bill had been serving since they started dating. On learning that Alexis and Ben were on their way to watch a movie, she had asked Bill if they could join them on a double date. What did Bill say? The usual, he was broke. The similar answer he gave to any recreational activity that did not involve him holding a bottle, loud music and a bunch of strangers dancing and moving all over.”’ I mean how much does a movie cost?”She had argued. (One thing was for sure it would cost much less than it did on that Fridays drinking spree). She had most certainly concluded that Bill was not broke, he was shady. Bill wished more than ever that he had followed his gut; that Kate was deep down a high maintenance lady.
You can bet a lot of ladies can relate with Kate, sadly many more men can share notes with Bill. Well does this sound familiar? Friday nights are forever to be spent in the club, coffee dates are well; none existent, he has managed to convince you time and again to buy the clear copy movie once it is out, rather than spend at the big screen (frankly he wonders who came up with the big screen idea) and last and certainly not least, did he ask you out to the club for your first date?.Yes to all the above? Red flag! What are we talking about? We are talking about those guys whose only recreational activity is clubbing, He will never surprise you with tickets to go watch Souti soul(or Kidum the new fad), the theatre or God forbid the movies. Coffee never, Pizza you’re dreaming, rugby game maybe, clubbing you are talking.
No you are not dating a drunk but you are dating the socially conventional man. That is not entirely a bad thing, socially however it is. No need to throw in the towel the situation can be remedied. The truth of the matter is not every guy has transitioned seamlessly into the current social scene. The reasons for this may be complete oblivion or complete ignorance .The former can be easily remedied the latter not so easy. The oblivious man needs you to introduce him to these new recreational activities. The latter needs you drag them there. He is completely convinced that anything outside the club is girlie, boring and their worst fear: expensive. A keener look reveals the exact opposite. Most of these social activities are well within the budget as compared to the drinking spree one which must include a couple of friends into the budget, a cab home, late night takeout, a very slow next morning… you know the drill..
If it is not broken don’t fix it so they say. Guess that means if there has been no complains on your side no need to jump ship, wrong. I have never met a girl who does not love a good surprice.Take her for pizza, Pop in with some ice-cream or black forest once in a while instead of that regular albeit useful newspaper. Take her for a late night movie, Hey go all out and do something real different. You cannot go wrong. Going out for the wild night out is fun, even exhilarating however not for everyone and certainly not every Friday, Saturday and sometimes Sunday. The ladies do not get off easy. The bigger task lies with you, the task of weaning him to this new way of life. You do not get to dump him on your way to the usual rave joint like Kate. You do however get to stay on the loop on every inexpensive outdoors activity that is out there. Who knows maybe Bill was not shady, what if he did not know any different?.
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